Yin vs YangThe Battle for Success in Life

Article by Peter J. Normandia. Follow me on Twitter.

The number one problem I think most people have is a lack of confidence.  So I have come up with a list of reasons why everyone should be confident in themselves.  Be proud of who you are by understanding exactly what, who, and where you stand in the grand scheme of things.

This list is based on a theory of mine.  The theory goes something like this:  We are all living during this time period on the earth.  Everything right now seems of major importance.  There are wars all over the world, hunger, crime, terrorism, corruption and all sorts of terrible things.  Each day, the news brings up the devastating events from the day before.  For each person involved in those events, the memories can scar for a lifetime.

But if we were to pretend for a second that we were not of this world.  That the world was a TV show we are watching.  A long running TV show that has been on for longer than we could ever imagine.  The show changes a lot, but mostly it is the same routine.  Every day, when something major happens on the show, we know it is just a small event in a much larger series.  The same is true for life.

Human life is just a small spec in the history of the world.  Before us, there were countless other creatures to rule the planet for various periods of time.  Time itself seems endless, b/c no one is quite sure how long it has been around.  Basically, almost any event, no matter how major, will be completely forgotten in the next 1,000 years. Time has a way of burying its past.  So should you.

I am writing all of this to hopefully help open up your eyes.  Though events today seem like the most important events to ever happen, they are not.  Most of these events barely matter in the grand scheme of things.  Yet, during these major events, or even minor ones, many of us get caught up in the pressure.  We get nervous, scared, hesitant, and become a shell of ourselves.  We panic at the thought of messing up the present.

Well, I am here to tell you it has to stop.  Nothing is as crazy as it seems no matter what it is.  Try to relax and step back for a moment each day.  Think about all the crazy days in high school when you the thought the world was over b/c someone was mad at you.  Life today is very similar.  Except we are out of high school and in real life.  Yet, we still are in a small section of a large world.  Even if things fail miserably in one place, you can always move to another, just like transferring schools.

The most important thing, though, is to be able to step back and relax.  Changing jobs or locations, and not your habits, will only delay the inevitable.  So what we need to do is to remember that everything is not as important as it seems because life will go on.  Therefore, we don’t need to constantly judge others, or ourselves, based on these seemingly major events.  The reality is, these events are not so major at all.  In fact, they are actually quite petty.

And if something is petty, then we should have no fear of it.  We should be confident that we can overcome it, no matter what it is.  Humans are a highly adaptable species.  They can overcome the seemingly insurmountable with just pure will.  Chances are, if you are reading this, that you are human.  Therefore you are also very adaptable and able to overcome the seemingly insurmountable with just your willpower.

Here are 10 reasons to be extra self-confident in your ability to overcome anything:

1. Whatever problem you have, someone has probably had something similar happen before.  You are probably not the first, and definitely not the last.  How did they handle it?

2. Everyone makes mistakes.  Everyone wishes those mistakes never happened.  But not everyone is able to sit back and gain a valuable lesson from their mistake.  Are you?

3. You are a unique individual with an amazing talent that no one else has.  This is not an opinion or a hope.  This is a fact.  The reason I say this is it has to be true.  You see all talents are based on experience and genes.  Therefore, since you have a unique set of genes, and a unique life experience unlike anyone else, there has to be something that sets you apart.  It is a simple fact.

4. If your self-confidence is low, write down the reasons as if you were describing another person.  Hang that list up and try to attack one of those items at a time.  Each day, you will do something to change the outcome of just one item on your list.  You will concentrate on one item at a time until it’s fixed.  Only then will you move on to another item.  Do not try and fix the whole list all at once.  One item at a time.  And remember, everyone has a list they can make, so don’t feel stupid.  By taking action you have already begun to change your confidence level.

5. Confidence is defined by Oxford American Dictionaries as….’The feeling of self-assurance rising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.‘  No where does it say your confidence arises from others.  Confidence is a personal issue.  Things you accomplish may raise your confidence only because you have proved to yourself it can be done. But true confidence comes from deep within your soul.  True confidence is not deterred by what others think.  True confidence even trumps repetitive failure.  You don’t need success to be confident.  However, you do need confidence to continually be successful.

6.  Finish this sentence:  You are the only person you know of that has ever……

7.  Everyone has an opinion, and most of them will not match yours.  This is okay.  Do not take it personally when one person believes differently than you.  This goes for your confidence level as well.  If someone thinks that you are not good enough, not talented enough, and is not confident in your abilities, it does not make it is a fact.  What it does mean is it is true for them at that moment.  For that moment, you were not good enough in THEIR OPINION.  That is okay.  That does not mean tomorrow, or next week, or next month, the opposite won’t be true.

8.  No one’s opinion should hold no more weight than your own. Everyone has an opinion.  So do you.  Picture it as if everyone has $1.  If everyone has $1, then everyone has something of equal value.  Just because someone’s dollar is slightly different than yours with different numbers, designs, or years produced, doesn’t mean it does not hold the same value.  Anyway you look at it, it is still just a $1.

9. Success is defined as never giving up.  It is not a secret.  It is not a trick.  It is not something that happens over night.  Success is the sum of continual confidence and relentless determination.  Success is not achieved by accident, rather it is the product of our own willpower. Success is a choice you make.  Make the choice to be successful.  Remember that choice will help you hurdle over every little obstacle along the way.

10.  Just by reading this list you have already made an effort to improve your life.  You are already determined to have more success than the average person.  So be confident, be proud, and remember that no one is quite like you, and that is the best card you have to play in the crazy game of life.

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